Bill’s sister wandered through a book store and found this. She sent it to me. First published in 1988, I found it still the most comprehensive and helpful book on the subject, despite its age. This comprehensive guide covers all facets of grieving and healing after loss. She begins with a thorough lesson on grief–the physical, psychological, and social impacts. She recognizes the practical implications and how they affect everything from your wallet to where you live. She doesn’t stop there.
Whether you’ve lost a spouse, a child, a relative, a best friend or a beloved pet, the manifestations of grief threaten to overwhelm daily life. While no map exists with a direct path to healing, insight does help. A lot.
We lost Alma so suddenly, there was no time to say goodbye. He was gone by the time we reached the hospital, and I found myself sobbing over his body, a part of me astonished by the depth of my expression, and a part of me asking, “What just happened here?” I remained paralyzed for weeks, racked by the shattering question, “How could my son lay dying 100 yards from me and I not know that? How is that even possible?” Healing remains slow and each gain hard won.
But let me be totally honest. I didn’t want to just say goodbye, I wanted to say, “Could you fix the mower?” “I’d love a new coffee table, would you make me one?” “Katelyn is getting pretty saucy, could you start a boot camp and bring her in line?” “Would you go with us to Alaska?” I still want to say all those things, and I still watch for him to walk through that door. I am not the only one.
Finding the will, the courage, the peace, the strength, the oomph to go on living is a good thing. I heartily recommend this excellent read.