Let me begin by explaining my innocent foray into the world of quilting. Grandchild #1 came along, and in the rapture of it all I unwittingly made a baby quilt. Of course seven grandchildren later, I felt rather accomplished at completing my eighth quilt. By then I found myself knee deep in twin quilts as they grew into bigger beds. If I could connect the quilted thread from the first to the last finished quilt, I imagine it traverses the United States. A good, strong thread cannot be overemphasized when it comes to holding together the fabric of our lives.
But more tenuous threads actually connect the designs warming the heart and hearth. We may exert too much tension on those threads, forgetting that delicate threads can break the hearts within our families. Arguments. Unkind words. Controlling behaviors. Manipulation. These seam rippers tear apart a carefully hand sewn family. How to avoid these destructive habits?
- Talk often and before disagreements arise.
- Look at situations together, not separately.
- Speak circumspectly. Choose words carefully rather than in the heat of the moment.
- Listen. Listen to what is said and UNsaid.
- Offer no ultimatums.
Jobs come and go. Friends may wander into and out of our lives, eventually moving on. Family ties span years, and hopefully, generations. Their design either create a pleasing pattern or a disruptive jumble of conflicting colors and shapes. Meant to be firm and lasting, bind your families together with love and wisdom. Unraveled, we lose the fabric that warms us. I know it’s summer right now, but it’s a cold world out there, folks. Stay warm!
- Evelyn Burns is a genius.
- I use the same basic patterns to simplify the process.
- Freestyle quilting intrigues me, but that’s for another lifetime, lol.
- Don’t be a perfectionist. My grandchildren will look at it someday, with all its flaws, and say, “She was old.” I can live with that.